let go
Posted by sophie on August 6, 2007
(“the kiss” 1908 & “mother and child” 1905, Gustav Klimt)
“the more we care, the more we lost … i better give up ……” – said the frustrated harry potter.
i was watching the harry potter, the “order of phoenix”, tonight and i was touched by these lines.
isn’t this too true for us all, especially in the era of love and relationships? the more we care, the more we love, the more we are hurt and frustrated.
we always ask ourselves, why they don’t appreciate what we have done? why they don’t understand us? why they treat us so bad?
if this is all out of love, why we are hurt and frustrated?
“you will be surprised to know that the English word love comes from a Sanskrit word lobha, lobha means greed. it may have been jsut a coincidence that the English word love grew out of a Sankrit word that means greed, but my feeling is that this cannot be just coincidence. There must be something more mysterious behind it, there must be some alchemical reason behind it. in fact, greed digested love. it is greed, lobha, digested well, which becomes love.
love is sharing; greed is hoarding. greed only wants and never gives, and love knows only giving and never asks for anything in return; it is unconditional sharing. there may be some alchemical reason that lobha has become love in English language. Lobha becomes love as far as inner alchemy is concerned.” – <love, freedon, aloneness>, osho, 2001.
do we notice that it is out of greed that we think / claim that we care and love someone. for this greed, it means desire and expectation. do we ever notice that when we love and care someone, the deep down reason is to fulfill our desires and expectations?
i love you (and i wish you love me in return …)
i love you (and i wish you obey me in return …)
i love you (and i wish you are loyal to me in return …)
do i truely love you … ?
when desires and expectations are not met, that becomes the source of our frustraction and disappointment.
to love someone, to care someone, and we also have to learn how to let go, to let go of our desires and greed.
if we love someone, then love them the way they are;
if we love someone, then love them and don’t ask them to change;
if we love someone, then love them with freedom and give them space;
if we love someone, then love them and don’t ask for return.
we let go, and we hope that our beloved ones would let go too.
love, with “greed digested well“, would become the unconditional love. it is when we could let go our greed and desires, the distilled true love is with us.
damm said
I love to be loved
Antique
Anthony said
I watched that movie too. I remembered that ‘quote’. Love is the power of human, even the power may be destructive, too.
sophie said
dear antique,
we all love to be loved, this is a need, this is our desire. i just wish that one day, i could distill all my desire and understand true love.
sophie said
dear antony,
welcome! do visit me regularly here! yup, love is powerful, both in the positive and negative terms. let’s learn how to love our beloved ones.
take care and get well soon!
PP said
Hi Sophie,
So true. Share with you my story that goes with your reflection. Recently I simply let go of my need to be loved by my love, I just let my love flows, admit it, feel it, express it – without the pressure our relationship improves tremendously.
If I really love you, I want you to be happy and respect your choices.
sophie said
dear pp,
thx for coming by and your sharing!
we all focus at how to gain and how to retain. after all, maybe it’s the art of “let go” that our life’s real purpose is rested on.
Kymerean said
Love in its truest and purest form is unconditional, and most times misunderstood. I hope for all to find it the way I have, and once you do never let it go.